When We Loose Sight Of What Is Already Holding Us

People can intellectually know that they are supported and still emotionally lose sight of it.

One of the things I find compelling about systemic coaching is the way it helps people see the relationships, dynamics and sources of support around them more clearly. Family, friends, colleagues, peers, all of the systems we sit in, often without consciously noticing them.

Sometimes the shift is almost physical.

A person may begin a conversation feeling isolated, overwhelmed or as though everything rests on them. And then, through exploring what is around them, they realise that they are far more supported than they had believed.

Nothing outside them has necessarily changed.

What changed is what they are able to see.

It is human to wobble. To feel overwhelmed. To feel alone.

We can know that we are loved, capable, supported and resilient… and yet, under pressure, temporarily lose access to that knowing.

Sometimes a gentle reminder of the people, relationships and resources already around us can help us re-centre.

For me, this is one of the things coaching can offer.

Not answers.

Not advice.

But the space to reconnect with what we may already know, but have temporarily lost sight of.